Over the course of the last few years, I’ve begun to accept that I can’t get through this life without my girlfriends. They are there for me time and time again, even when I think I don’t need them…I really do! And in the last few months in particular, I have made a conscious effort to make girl time a priority. And my SOUL appreciates it! No really, it is more important…vital…than I ever expected it to. I need to laugh, I need to talk, I need to listen, I need to connect on a level that no one quite gets – except my girlfriends. And you know what, my girlfriends need this too.
This past weekend I did my annual first craft show of the year. Stress, long hours, hard work, a booth neighbor with migraine inducing lights shining RIGHT IN MY FACE, and hours and hours of talking with the public. But at the end of the day, I got some much needed girl time with my dear friend Yvonne. We got caught up on our lives, we talked about snow and spouses, we talked about firewood and flooding, and we laughed and cried a little, drank some wine and had some really good long hugs!
Also last weekend, my best friend on the planet, Eileen sent me a text – Hi Honey, how are you? Are you ok? My BFF-ESP kicked in…. Awww…how does she always know??? Because she knows me so well, and we really are connected soul-deep. I assured her I was fine, told her about the craft show, the lights, and the girl time. We set a phone call date for Tuesday. On Tuesday we laughed and got caught up on the last week or so, talked about spouses and work obligations, summer plans, we laughed and cried a little, we talked about priorities and standing up for myself. We made plans to talk again next week.
And also last weekend, we had Girls Night In at church. Its our new women’s ministry group where we host a monthly get together for ourselves and women in the community. We laugh and play crazy games. We spend some time in the sanctuary talking about God and the role of women in the bible, and in our lives. We eat fabulous food, and we laugh and talk and pray. This month we also planted flowers to celebrate spring, and talked about some options for service projects – and you know what came out as the favorite idea? Working with organizations to support disadvantaged women and children in our area. Not sure what that will look like exactly – but I’m sure some “drive” of some sort to collect things women and children need – diapers, clothes, feminine hygiene products, toys, blankets, and the like. I’m excited to work with my friends over the next few months to make a difference in some local lives. Working on projects together brings us all closer – to each other, and to God. When we are serving others, we are serving God.
And while I wasn’t able to participate because of my craft show, this past weekend was also another fabulous gathering of girlfriends in Ann Arbor, Michigan. It was MRKH Day – A day of Education, Sharing, and Support for people with MRKH. This special day is sponsored by the OB/GYN department, Gynecology division of Michigan Medicine In cooperation with Beautiful You MRKH Foundation. A full day of MRKH information and support…for those of us with MRKH and our parents and partners. The full day conference event is followed by an evening social – you know, the after party! I haven’t had a chance to attend an MRKH conference yet, but from all the reports of those who attend…they are incredible. While we all enjoy the online support groups, Facebook friends, and the incredible opportunities for “instant support” we can find on the internet – nothing quite compares to meeting another MRKH woman in person – and a whole house full of them….MIND.BLOWN.
Now, don’t get me wrong…I LOVE my local girlfriends…wine, chocolate, giggles, tears, talks, phone calls, texts, the whole shebang…but when you have something in your life like MRKH…well, you’re always just a little detached from all the other women in the room. You can’t quite relate to the period talk, or the parenthood talk, or the grandchild stories – and how in the world can they truly relate to us? They try…with valiant effort…they ask thoughtful questions and try to understand my perspective…but they don’t quite get it.
The first time I got to meet another MRKH woman face to face, 3 of us got together for dinner. It was effortless – we instantly connected and could relate to each other just like life long friends. We laughed, talked about diagnosis and treatment, life choices and having our choices taken away. It’s been close to 3 years since that encounter….I’ll let Jen tell it, as I think she summed it up perfectly! http://humoringmylife.blogspot.com/2014/08/mrkh-meeting.html I’ve met up with others since then a handful of times. And each time it’s the same kind of instant connection. And each time I spend some girl time with MRKH women, I heal just a little bit more.
That’s what girl time is about I think – it’s restorative. It’s a chance to look at life from different angles….share the heavy burdens….get some insight from trusted friends. While I love my husband and family dearly, and love to spend time with them – nothing quite compares to girl time.
I’ll leave you with this song by the incomparable Reba McEntire – it’s a new favorite!